This blog is a place where I mostly suggest articles, or recommend books, that I think might be interesting and/or useful to people who would like to know more about counselling. Whether you’d like to find out about what it can be like to see a therapist, or to learn about some of the theories that underpin my practice, hopefully there will be something on the list below that could offer a little of what you’re looking for. I’m open to requests or suggestions!


Why We May Be Angry Rather Than Sad


Antidepressants: 10 Shocking Studies Everyone Should Know


I couldn't stop crying, then counselling changed my life


Therapy: Everything You Wanted to Know but Were Too Afraid to Ask


The Faulty Walnut

A great article for all those times when we can't make sense of our own brains!


Most of us could use a little Self-Compassion...

This article has some pointers.


Mythbusting - what 'kind of person' sees a therapist? Answer: all kinds!

I see lots of different people, for many different reasons. There's no 'typical' client, or typical therapist; what's really important is that client and therapist feel that they can work well together.


What is therapy for? What does it DO?

Good Question! This thoughtful article has some answers.


This is interesting

This is interesting - research which suggests psychodynamic therapy might alter your brain function:


Another great article

Another great article; this one on Attachment:


Client Contracts

After a client and I have decided that we’d like to work together, I will offer them a ‘contract’ – really more of an agreement between counsellor and client - which sets out basic guidelines for how our counselling relationship should work.

I thought I would put up a copy here, as it may be interesting to people who haven’t seen a counsellor before, and would like to know a little more about entering into counselling.

Contract Example:

Anna Shea Counselling

Contract between Anna Shea and __________________________


Beginning to work together means that we have arranged to meet at an arranged time, usually for 50 minutes, and in a safe setting, in order for you to examine the issues or problems you care to discuss. My role is to facilitate your process, draw attention to the less conscious aspects of your thinking or behaviour and if appropriate, help you move towards change.


Anything you choose to say to me within sessions remains confidential with the following exceptions:

1. Supervision
I may sometimes feel it would be beneficial to discuss your sessions with my supervisor. These discussions will also be in confidence and their purpose is to enable me to be more effective in our work together.
2. Danger to Self or Others
If you give me information that leads me to believe that somebody is in danger of serious harm, or that you are putting yourself in danger, I may feel obliged to take further steps to protect you and others. I will always talk to you about this.


If you cancel a session with less than 2 days notice you will be charged the full fee. If you have not cancelled I assume you are coming. If you are unable to make a session and give me prior notice, I will try to arrange to see you at another time.

Code of Ethics

I am a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and I abide by their ethical framework. You can find it on their website at:


Once we agree to work together my commitment to you is usually open ended. Ending is something that is worked out between us. At the very least I would ask for one session’s notice so that we can reflect on our work together.”


“How do I find the right therapist?”

From The Spectator, 27 September 2014, by Patrick Strudwick

Link to original article:

It’s not always easy assessing the various merits of umpteen therapists, cross-referencing qualifications, experience and specialities, while also, at the apex of a panic attack, pleading with a 999 telephonist to send an ambulance as you are ‘dying’. I have tried this. The results are less than ideal. Shopping for the right psychotherapist could turn a happy, uncomplicated person into Woody Allen. But at one’s saddest, and maddest, finding someone to lower your insanity to manageable levels makes exchanging on a house seem like a spa weekend. Even when in sound mental health you have to know what to look for and where to look, or else risk finding yourself at the mercy of a handsy old codger releasing childhood trauma through ‘special hugs’.

But the first, key, sobering point to bear in mind is this: the entire profession is unregulated. Anyone in Britain can call themselves a therapist or counsellor without any training or qualifications — Abu Qatada could have set up a website offering his services to treat your depression, Janet Street-Porter could, even George Osborne. ‘Counsellor’ and ‘psychotherapist’ are not protected titles. Thus, at our most vulnerable, we can be at the mercy of the most unqualified and least experienced, with often no recourse for bad treatment. The state cares not. Careless in the community, indeed.

The second salient issue involves the very nature of how psychotherapy works. Specifically, whether it does or not. Repeated research has failed to find evidence of efficacy, since an explosive study by Vanderbilt University, Nashville, in 1979, which sent 15 sufferers of depression and anxiety to see 15 different therapists, who made no more progress than another 15 — a control group — sent to fake therapists. This does not mean talking therapies are pointless nonsense, because anecdotally we know this not to be true. Rather, efficacy is hard to quantify — it isn’t testable like drugs, and everyone responds differently.

Which type of therapist, and therapy, will work best for you we will come to shortly, but there is one other crucial aspect to bear in mind: how comfortable you feel with them. This might sound woolly, but several studies have shown that it is the particular dynamic between client and therapist that’s paramount. ‘The relationship is more important than whether you see a clinical psychologist, a counsellor, a psychotherapist, a psychoanalyst, or a psychiatrist, or the type of therapy, because if you’re not a good match, you’re not going to allow that relationship to impact upon you, so it’s not going to work,’ explains psychotherapist Philippa Perry, author of How To Stay Sane. In other words, because you are sharing intimate, often difficult thoughts and feelings, then without being able to trust the therapist, the scope for improvement is limited. Perry recommends, therefore, that once you’ve whittled down therapists in your area — to ones you can afford, who seem well-qualified — it then pays to phone them up, get an initial sense of whether you might be able to work with them, and then go to see at least two. After an assessment session, you will have a better idea of whether a productive working relationship is likely, and then you can simply arrange to see the one that feels like the right fit.

‘You don’t buy the first pair of shoes you try on,’ says Perry. ‘And this is a lot more important — and expensive.’ She also advises having a review with the therapist after four sessions, to discuss how things are going and whether it seems fruitful to have more. In the selection procedure, questions of age, sex, race, religion, nationality and sexual orientation can all emerge too. If you are new to therapy, while in other areas it is helpful for one’s thoughts to be challenged, when it comes to demographics it is better, at first, to go along with them. ‘If you think all men are rapists, then you’re unlikely to open up well to a man,’ says Perry. ‘Once you’re a bit further down the road with therapy you might want to take on certain preconceptions but initially go with what you think you will feel most comfortable with.’

But prepare to be surprised on this front. ‘Many people come to therapy thinking they want a female therapist because they assume a woman would be more sympathetic and understanding, but this is not necessarily the case,’ says psychotherapist Matthew Stinson from the University of Brighton. ‘To ensure your therapist is the right one, there is something else to bear in mind. Many people like theirs and feel comfortable because the therapist constantly agrees with them, or even compliments them.’ There is a danger of the therapist colluding with the client into thinking, ‘Isn’t the rest of the world awful?’ says Perry. ‘If you find that you like your therapist but they agree with every single thing you say, you should be suspicious.’ Instead, a good therapist will help you to investigate your beliefs, thoughts and feelings and challenge you where necessary. ‘It might be, for example, that you are convinced that your boss hates you, and you interpret every word, every look, every incident as further evidence of this, when there may be another explanation,’ says Stinson. ‘Helping a client see alternative possibilities can be transformative for them.’ Thus, concludes Perry, ‘Look for someone you like who isn’t collusive with you.’

Another factor is intelligence. ‘I hate to say it but there are therapists who aren’t that bright,’ says Perry. ‘If you’re a very bright person and you go to someone who is less intellectual than you are, it can be a terrible match.’ The award-winning mental health journalist and editor Louise Chunn has set up a website ( to cater for this. Academic level forms one part of the questionnaire in the ‘find a therapist’ section. This questionnaire is about the most comprehensive, tailored and helpful tool in any hunt for the right therapist. Questions include the nature of the problems you want to tackle, the kind of therapeutic approach that might work best for you and the duration of therapy you would like, along with the personal traits of the therapist such as age, sex and race.

When it comes to the type of therapy, and therefore who best to administer it, there are a few other factors to consider as well. ‘First of all, how long you want, or can afford to have therapy for,’ says Stinson. ‘If you can only manage a couple of months, then in-depth psychoanalytical approaches, which delve into the subconscious, aren’t for you. Equally, if you are someone who works on a more logical, thought-based level, rather than a more intuitive level, an approach that harnesses that, such as cognitive behavioural therapy [CBT] might suit you best.’ CBT is also particularly useful in dealing with certain conditions, such as anxiety, and mild to moderate depression. For more complex, deep-rooted or chronic problems, stretching back into childhood, long-term counselling, psychoanalysis or psychodynamic psychotherapy might be a better bet.

With regard to qualifications, it helps if a therapist has ones specifically relating to counselling, clinical psychology, psychiatry or psychotherapy, rather than a generic psychology qualification, or related areas such as neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy or life coaching. Ideally, it should be a master’s degree, or at least a postgraduate diploma. Professional membership matters too. And so, another helpful search tool is the website of either of the two largest psychotherapy and counselling organisations: the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy ( and the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy ( These list only therapists or counsellors who are members of their own organisation. Membership to such a body means three things for the prospective client: any therapist granted accreditation will have to have shown a relatively high level of training and a certain amount of clinical experience — and, perhaps even more reassuring, should something go wrong, the client can make a formal complaint to the body. Although they cannot be struck off in the way doctors can, the therapist could at least lose their membership to that organisation and find it more difficult to gain employment.

On this subject, one other key criterion is whether the therapist has insurance or not. If they don’t, and something terrible happens, it will be much harder to sue them.



Two links for the same website; both articles are written by Philippa Perry, who is a psychoanalytical psychotherapist. Her writing is clear, friendly and straightforward. As a psychodynamic counsellor, my practice shares many of the theories and approaches she uses, so what she describes in her articles feels very relevant to the kind of therapy I offer my clients.

Questions we often have when thinking about looking for a therapist:
What will I get out of therapy?


Couch Fiction, Philippa Perry ~
Philippa Perry again, with an accessible and entertaining graphic novel that follows a psychotherapist and her client through a course of therapy. There’s lots to get out of this book, at all levels of interest – whether you’ve never seen a counsellor, or are a professional who’s been in practice for years.
Why Love Matters, Sue Gerhardt ~
An amazing, ground-breaking book that describes for laypeople and professionals alike how our development as babies – the actual shape and ‘wiring’ of our brains – is influenced by our early experiences of care. I find it fascinating how closely evidence from neuroscience fits with psychodynamic ideas.
Focusing, Eugene Gendlin ~
This is a useful little book for those of us who sometimes find it tricky to work out just what it is we’re feeling. It talks the reader through Gendlin’s simple steps to help us learn how to pause, listen and notice how we feel 'in ourselves', physically and emotionally.
Between Therapist and Client, Michael Kahn ~
Michael Kahn describes in this book what it is that he thinks makes therapy work – the safe, therapeutic relationship that develops between the counsellor and client. A good place to start looking at some of the ideas and theories that might shape a therapist’s practice, if you have an interest in that direction.
Inside Lives, Margot Waddell ~
A beautifully written book that follows the major developmental phases between infancy to old age from the perspective of psychoanalytical theory. The author manages to describe complex, sometimes challenging ideas in extremely accessible – and moving - language. Impressive, informative, gorgeous to read.
Playing and Reality, D. W. Winnicott ~
This is a classic text - it's not always an easy read, but is worth sticking with for Winnicott's insight, innovation and, sometimes, dry humour. In a collection of essays, Winnicott writes about how we come to understand our selves, others, and the world we live in.